By: Eli Verschleiser
It is
difficult, but not impossible to believe that the same man who was America’s
favorite, funniest TV dad for eight years and served as a role model could be
accused of horrible sexual trespasses over the course of his long life as a
celebrity.
Nor, sadly,
is it hard to accept the possibility since the end of his show in 1992, Bill Cosby
spoke out publicly on responsibility and morality, while privately practicing
neither.
Abusers can
often be very affable and endearing leaders who espouse values they do not
embody.
More
surprising is the fact that Cosby, if he is guilty of these awful allegations has
made it to this stage in his life without facing the consequences of his
actions.
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Disbelievers
may say this increases the doubt – why would victims stay silent when the star
was at the peak of his popularity, only to come after him in his sunset years?
But to those
of us who are active in the victim advocacy community, the silence of years or
decades or even a lifetime is all too common.
Only years
after the death of Rabbi Shlomo Carlebach, leader of a major spiritual revival
movement, did a group of women come forward with tales of improper physical contact.
In the armed
forces in particular, women subjected to abuse sometimes wait until they or
their abuser have left the service until reporting crimes. In religious
communities, fear of ostracization or even consequence from God as a result of
accusing a revered clergyman can keep secretes perpetually buried and imperil
more people.
And sadly, it’s
safe to assume that whether the setting is a college campus, a home, church or
yeshiva, a large share of incidents and, possibly the majority, will never be
reported at all. In all too many cases, a result can be suicide, as the victim
can live no longer with the torment.
When people
do find the admirable courage to speak out and accuse the powerful of abuse,
there can be a cascade effect, as in the case of Rabbi Baruch Lanner, who for
years terrorized children involved in a youth group he ran. When stories
emerged in a Jewish newspaper, more victims came forward to press charges that
sent the rabbi to jail. That’s what we are seeing in the Cosby case as decades-old
walls of silence collapse.
Attorney
Gloria Allred, representing some alleged victims, has challenged the comedian
to waive the statute of limitations and allow one of the cases against him to
tried in court to settle the question of guilt or innocence. But this is more
theatrical than realistic.
It’s likely
that Cosby will only be tried in the court of public opinion.
So, absent
convictions, the best result that can come from this disturbing list of
allegations against a beloved figure who may have hoodwinked America about his
character is that more victims will feel safe coming forward -- for their own good and for the sake of
protecting other potential victims. To
do that, it’s incumbent on society, courts, lawmakers and others to establish
better conditions for them.
We must do
away with the sense of futility associated with coming forward. If it takes
someone years to find the courage, or if they come forward in the interests of
protecting others, they should not be hampered by the statute of limitations.
Professor
Marci Hamilton one of the United States’ leading church/state scholars has
advocated for extending criminal and civil Statutes of limitation (SOLs ) which
can vary widely, from two or three years to 30 (as in the case of Connecticut)
or no limitations at all as Arkansas and Alaska. These new legislation trends
should be encouraged by all.
Another
answer is greater education that empowers victims to come forward by teaching them
to speak out at an early age. Organizations like Lauren's Kids and Magenu.org educates
adults and children about sexual abuse topics through in school curricula and
speaking engagements around the country.
Erin’s law,
championed by Erin Merryn, promotes legislation for prevention education from
kindergarten through high schools. It is
now law in 19 states. A similar law should be passed at the federal level to
include all educators in America.
We have come
a long way since the days when Bill Cosby’s crimes are alleged to have taken
place. Hopefully better awareness and more empowerment will mean fewer people
falling prey to these kinds of crimes, but we must do everything we can to
ensure that today’s victims won’t be confronting their accusers decades down
the road, if they do so at all.